Psychological facts about soulmates
The concept of soulmates is very subjective.
Most of the time, we try to convince ourselves that soulmates exist and look for scientific and well-researched psychological facts about soulmates. Occasionally, we seek other people’s opinions to validate our personal beliefs about soulmates.
But sometimes we also get to a point when we think that soulmates do not exist, and if they do, why only a small population of people meet their one true soul mate? Again, no scientific proof or counterarguments can hide this uncertainty. And then we realize how hard it is to believe in something that has no scientific evidence.
It happens to everyone. When we have found our soulmate, we put a full stop after that phrase and think that this is the person we have been dreaming about. There is nothing more to look for. There is nothing more to ask for. We have found our one and only, so there is no sense in looking for other people. But do we have any actual evidence that soulmates exist? Or even psychological facts which prove their existence?
So, let’s found out. Here is the list of psychological facts about soulmates that might help you decide whether or not to believe in soulmate and soulmate marriages.
Study – I
1. Soulmates experience high levels of satisfaction but also experience high levels of conflict and divorce.
According to the study conducted by the University of virginia on 1414 married couples in Louisiana (1998-2004), people who practice the traditions of permanent marriage and gender equality with the support of social networks and religious institutions usually have more stable, happy marriages as long as they take the time to communicate with each other.
On the other hand, spouses who embrace the soulmate model of marriage usually enjoy high levels of satisfaction, but also experience a great deal of conflict.
As per an additional finding, spouses who embrace traditional marriage norms without social support reported a lack of quality marriage.
2. Soulmates’ marital happiness depends on individual fulfillment.
The same study found that soulmates are more likely to see marriage as an opportunity to enjoy companionship, personality development, emotional security, and individual fulfillment within a relationship than adults who take a more traditional view of marriage
Given the expressive focus of their relationship, they are also more likely to invest themselves in the emotional possibilities of their marital relationship. Moreover, because of the expressive character of contemporary married life, where marital happiness is closely linked to the exchange of emotional intimacy between spouses.
This expressive focus is likely to foster higher levels of marital quality. And experience improved marital happiness in a relationship because of the individual’s personal fulfillment.
3. Soulmate model of marriage enriches marital quality and that the institutional model of marriage fosters marital stability.
Researchers agree that the institutional model of marriage is more likely to produce marital stability than the soulmate model. It is not clear, however, whether the soulmate model of marriage or the institutional model of marriage is more likely to produce high marital quality in contemporary U.S. spouses.
Those couples who look at an expressive relationship might be more likely to achieve marital happiness. The opposite is true as well, for couples who are religious, put a strong emphasis on marital permanence, and are surrounded by friends and family all of which may promote higher levels of marital quality.
4. People with strong belief in soulmates embrace conditional love and are ready to breakup once they feel they are not meant to be together.
Soulmates choose the ethic of conditional love. This means they remain married only if they both feel happy and fulfilled. Otherwise, they move on with their individual lives instead of living together for better or worse.
That is because they believe the motive of marriage is to advance personal growth and individual fulfillment.
Especially, the newlywed couple pursuing a soulmate approach to marriage will likely embrace a conditional ethic of love, which allows them to leave if the marriage does not make them happy.
However, this conditional approach to love is not as likely to build trust and commitment in a relationship—especially when a spouse’s partner knows that his or her love is conditional
As a result, due to lower levels of commitment and trust, spouses may be less likely to invest emotionally in each other.
5. A woman who was socially supported had 55 percent more chances of reporting conflict with her soulmate.
6. In women who were not receiving social support, they were 67 percent more likely to report conflict with their soulmate.
7. There is a 95 to 146 percent higher likelihood of a soulmate husband reporting conflict than a common husband.
8. The divorce rate is lower among spouses who marry as soulmates, especially in the case of husbands.
Study – II
The study conducted by Renae Franiuk, Department of Psychology, Aurora University on 143 adults called as Implicit relationship theory.
In implicit theories of relationships (ITRs), people are divided into those who believe that relationships are destined for each other and those who believe that relationships develop slowly with effort.
The soulmate theory states that finding the right partner is crucial to a successful relationship. Which is further divided into Pure soulmate theory, strong soulmate theory, and weak soulmate theory.
The work-it-out theory is based on the belief that successful relationships require effort. Which is further divided into Pure work it out theory, strong work it out theory, and weak work it out theory.
9. A person with a strong soulmate theory may be more likely to stay in a violent relationship than someone with a weak soulmate theory.
People with a strong soulmate theory are engaged in constant partner evaluation early in the relationship. But, once they are committed to the relationship, they may use strategies to maintain their beliefs about their partner as their soulmate.
Therefore, if relationship violence begins after one has decided that he/she is with the right person, people with a strong soulmate theory might be more likely to remain in a violent relationship than people with a weak soulmate theory
10. Those with a strong soulmate theory were more forgiving of a partner’s transgressions if they had good partner fit relative to those who did not report good partner fit.
11. Soulmates were likely to put more effort into overcoming difficulties than those with the ‘work-it-out’.
Study – III
12. Those who considered themselves to be in soulmate relationships identified as an intuitive component.
13. The study by Bloomstein (2001) analyzed the soulmate experiences of five adults aged 47-82 and identified their soulmate experiences as four premises, such as: predetermination, mystical identification, paranormal communication, and perfect self-enclosure.