Things to talk about before getting into a relationship (complete guide)

By: Naveen B

A relationship is a special bond that develops between two people who spend time together. You can share a relationship with your family, friends, and coworkers.

Relationships are complicated because they involve two or more people with different needs and wants.

Each person wants to be happy and feels good about themselves. They also want their partner to feel good about themselves. But there are times when two people’s needs conflict, which can lead to conflict in the relationship.

So, it’s best to consider a few things to talk about before getting into a relationship, avoid unnecessary drama and lead a happy family life.

Things to talk about before getting into a relationship


Here is a list of things to talk about before getting into a relationship:


It’s important to talk about your personality and the personalities of each other. The more you know about each other’s personalities, the better you can understand one another.

For example, if you are an introvert and your partner is an extrovert. As each personality’s needs and perspectives differ. So, it’s best to talk about which category you belong to.

Also, there are a few key traits you should look for in a potential partner. You want someone who is kind and generous, but also not afraid to be assertive if necessary.

You don’t want someone who is only going to be happy when you’re doing things their way; if that’s the case, then it’s unlikely this person will ever support your goals or dreams.

Also read: Relationship Needs: Your guide to a list of wants and needs in a relationship

Above all else, you need someone who genuinely cares about other people—it’s easy enough to say “I love my friends!” but actions speak louder than words.

You should also consider whether or not they have the same beliefs as you do regarding politics and religion; these can be difficult topics because they often involve some pretty strong opinions on either side (and sometimes even heated debates).

But if there isn’t any overlap between where your beliefs lie and theirs, then there may be trouble down the road when it comes time for decision-making about controversial issues like politics, abortion rights, or LGBTQ+ protections within religious institutions (or lack thereof).

It is beneficial to talk about each other’s maturity level and self-awareness.

Knowing yourself well enough to be able to communicate honestly with someone else is key here.

Because being self-aware means having clear insight into what makes sense for who you are as an individual human being.

Whether that’s being honest about what scares or excites us or know how we tend to react under pressure (like when someone gets hurt).

If we don’t know ourselves deeply enough then we might find ourselves making decisions based solely on our emotions rather than logic which could lead us down paths that end up causing harm instead of good (like cheating on someone).

Past relationships

Before getting into a relationship, it’s important to discuss your past relationships, and how they ended. 

Don’t try to avoid this topic or skirt around the subject — talk about it openly and honestly.

If you’ve been married before, tell your date what happened and how close or far away you are from your ex-husband/wife. If there were children involved, how do they fit into the picture now?

Discuss with a matured mindset about affairs if they have any. Did they completely heal from their past relationships? Also ask if they are physically, emotionally, or spiritually ready for the next relationship.

Examine your role in those relationships and what it was that stopped them from working out. If there are patterns here, it’s important to understand them so that they can be avoided in the future.

In the initial stages of dating, it is important to get to know one another and find out what they are looking for in their future partner.

When you ask someone about their past relationships, you can gain valuable insight into who they are as an individual and what they value in life.

Talking about your past relationships may be difficult if you are not used to it or if it brings up difficult memories for you.

Also read: 70+ Questions to ask yourself before getting into a relationship

However, this is an important step before getting into a new relationship because being able to communicate openly will help build trust between two people who want each other’s best interests at heart—not only now but also during future trials that might arise.

  • Talk about whether they had any relationships in the past and why did they end? What did you learn from your past relationships? Did they completely heal? And whether ready for a new relationship.
  • Do you have any kids? Or married to someone else in the past? If yes, then how did it end up or what happened to that person/relationship and why was it unsuccessful for them, and why are they now single again.
  • Talk about their past completely as possible so that there is no hidden secret or facts which can break the relationship later on down the line because things like this could come out of nowhere one day when least expected like when getting married or having kids together etc

Personal life, career status, business, and finances

A relationship is a big commitment and hence before getting into it, you need to know everything about your partner. What are their expectations from the relationship? What do they expect from you?

The first thing that you should discuss with your partner is their personal life. Is he/she ready for a relationship?

What are his/her expectations from this relationship and what values does he/she want to follow in the relationship. You should also know about his/her family members and friends as it will help you know more about them.

Talking about your personal life is a great way to get to know someone.

Asking about their job and business will show you how they’re feeling about what they do for a living. It can also give you a sense of whether or not they’d be interested in another career path if the opportunity presented itself.

Money can be a sensitive subject for couples, but it’s important to discuss your finances before getting into a relationship. You don’t want to be surprised by an unexpected bill or debt when you’re already in love.

Don’t let this be an issue in your future relationship. If you have differing viewpoints on spending and saving, it could become a problem. And if one person has more debt than the other, that’s another issue as well. Talk about it now, so that there are no surprises later on.

So, talk about finances and ask each other whether you are financially stable enough to take on the responsibility of caring for another person’s life if necessary?

Also read: Checklist before getting into a relationship (healthy relationship checklist)

Future plans

The next step is to get serious about your future and talk about it openly.

Have you set goals and decided on a career path? Do you dream of having children one day? If so, what kind of family do you want to have? These are all important questions that need to be answered before moving forward with a new relationship.

You should also discuss your expectations of each other, including where you see this relationship going (if at all).

Are you looking for something casual? Something long-term? What is each of your goals and dreams? Do these match up with each other or would they clash at some point?

Are there any issues such as jealousy or trust that may cause problems down the road? You should be open and honest about everything so that nothing can catch anyone off guard later on down the road.

Family Background, beliefs, and culture

If you are looking for a long-term relationship, then it is important that you know where your partner comes from.

You need to know what kind of family they come from, what their culture is like, and whether or not they have been brought up in a religious environment.

This will help you understand them better and make them feel more comfortable around you.

You need to discuss your beliefs with your partner before getting into a relationship. You should also discuss their beliefs as well so that there are no misunderstandings later on in the future.

When two people with different beliefs start dating, there are usually problems that arise because of these differences. It is best to avoid these by discussing them before getting involved with each other.

Talk about each other’s families. Share your stories and experiences growing up with your family, what you remember most about them, and how close you are now. And if you’re not close, why?

Do they know about your relationship? Are they supportive of it? What are their religious/political beliefs?

Discuss politics and religion along with many other topics that may be sensitive to either party (e.g., abortion).

Health and s#xual preferences

When you’re getting to know someone, it’s easy to overlook the little things. But when you’re considering a long-term relationship, it’s important to talk about important topics like health and s#xual preferences.

It’s okay if you don’t know everything about each other’s pasts, but there are some questions that should be answered in full before you get serious about each other.

Asking these questions will help keep your relationship healthy and strong in the long run:

How do you feel about physical intimacy? Are you physically active with others? Do you have any STDs or a history of STDs? Do you enjoy romance? If so, how often do you engage in it?

Do you prefer one position over another? What do you think about po#nograp#y? How do your fantasies differ from reality?

What is your attitude toward casual s#x versus committed relationships with multiple partners? How does one-night stand to fit into this picture for both of us?

Things to consider before entering a relationship


 Are you ready to take the plunge and start a relationship? Here is a list of  things to consider before entering a relationship


Are You Ready?

Before getting into any kind of relationship, it’s important to ask yourself if you’re ready for it.

If you’re still figuring out who you are as an individual, then it’s probably best not to get involved with someone else just yet.

While it might seem like the perfect opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth, that doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily going to be healthy for either party involved.

What Do You Want Out Of Life?

Another thing to consider before beginning a new romantic relationship is what kind of life do you want? Do you want children? If so when? How many?

Where do you see yourself in five years? Ten years? Twenty years?

These are all important questions that should be asked before getting into anything serious with another person because they will affect both parties’ lives dramatically.

Also, consider these questions to ask yourself before entering a new relationship

1. Are you ready for a relationship? If you are not ready for a relationship, then you should wait until you are ready.

2. Do you know what type of relationship you want? You should have a clear idea of what kind of relationship you want before starting one.

3. Do you need some time to yourself first? If so, take it before entering into a new relationship.

4. Have you had enough time to heal from the last relationship? If not, then don’t start another one until you have healed from your last one.

5. Do you know how to communicate with your partner in an effective way? Communication is key in any relationship and if yours isn’t up to par then things could turn sour very quickly.


You need to know what you want and what you don’t want. If you don’t know what you want, how can you expect someone else to?

Self-awareness is a very important part of a long-term relationship because it allows both partners to learn and grow together.

And if you don’t know who you are or what makes you happy, how can a partner be expected to know?

Personal values

What are your personal values when it comes to relationships?

What do you find important?

Are there things that are non-negotiable for you and if so, what are they?

Do these values align with those of your partner or will they cause conflict in the future?

Relationship history

How many relationships have you been in before this one and how did they end?

Was it an amicable breakup or did one party cheat on the other or otherwise break their trust by lying about something significant like their feelings for someone else or even how much money they were spending on them (i.e., gift giving).

These details may seem insignificant to some people but they could be important red flags for others such as myself!


They’re open about their past relationships and past relationships with their family members.

It’s important that they share everything with you because it shows that they’re honest and will be able to do the same for you.

They don’t have any secrets from their past or present. This includes things like money problems, drug addictions, etc.

You want someone who is upfront about these things so that if they ever come up again, there won’t be any surprises between the two of you.


They’re willing to compromise with you on certain things without causing an argument or fight between the two of you.

Compromise is important in any relationship because it shows that both people are willing to work together instead of against each other when situations arise where there would normally be disagreement between them on certain issues or situations at hand.

They respect your privacy and boundaries when it comes down to physical intimacy such as kissing and/or cuddling.

Do they treat you well?

This might seem obvious, but it’s important to make sure that your partner treats you well and respects your boundaries (both physical and emotional).

If they don’t respect your needs or feelings, this isn’t someone who will be good for you in the long run.

Are you compatible with each other and Is there genuine chemistry?

Compatibility and Chemistry are often considered intangible factors in dating — something that can’t be quantified or even identified until after two people have been together for a while.

But there are ways to tell whether there’s real chemistry between two people from the very beginning of a relationship:

Do they find little things about each other funny?

Do they want to spend time together?

Do they feel comfortable talking about anything and everything with each other?

Are you happy with your relationship?

Do you trust your partner?

These are all signs of chemistry! Just remember

Find out if they’re interested in you

If you know someone who is interested in you, but they haven’t made a move yet, ask them out on a date directly.

If they decline, that’s an indication that they aren’t interested in pursuing things further with you.

Don’t get too drunk on your first date

Drinking before a date can make it difficult to assess whether or not you like someone and how much they like you based on their behavior.

Instead of hitting up bars or clubs, try meeting up at a coffee shop or restaurant instead so that both parties are sober enough to talk and enjoy each other’s company without being influenced by alcohol consumption.

Things to know before getting into a relationship


When you fall in love, everything seems perfect and wonderful. The two of you are so happy together, and you can’t imagine a life without each other. But before you get too carried away, there are some things you should know before getting into a relationship.

Here is a list of things to know before getting into a relationship:

There are going to be problems

No matter how much you love each other, there will come a time when you and your partner disagree or have a fight.

This is normal, but it doesn’t mean that either of you is a bad person. In fact, it’s good.

Conflict is part of any healthy relationship because it shows that the two of you have opposing viewpoints and wants that need to be resolved.

Your partner isn’t always right and neither are you

It’s easy to think that your significant other has all the answers because they’re always there for you when things go wrong or when something comes up in your life that makes no sense whatsoever (e.g., what on earth do I wear to this party?).

However, this isn’t true. Everyone has flaws and makes mistakes from time to time — including your partner.

Therefore don’t expect them to always know how to solve your problems for you.

Can You Spend Time With Him or Her Every Day? 

The important thing to consider is whether your partner has enough time for you. If you want something serious and long-term, then it’s important that he or she has enough time for both of your schedules to match up.

If one person is always busy when the other wants to hang out, it will only lead to frustration. 

Learn to listen

When you’re in a relationship, you’re going to have many opportunities to talk about your feelings, but one of the most important is listening.

If you’re not good at this, take the time to learn. It’s not just about hearing the words someone is saying; it’s also about seeing how they are saying them.

Be honest from the beginning

If you have something to hide from your partner or don’t want to reveal certain details about your past, consider whether you should be in a relationship with that person.

If there are things that could potentially affect your relationship later down the road, now is the time for full disclosure before getting into it any further.

Make sure you want this person in your life long term

It’s easy to get caught up in the romance of a new relationship and forget that this person is going to stick around for a while — sometimes years.

Before jumping into anything serious, make sure that this person really is who you want to spend time with on an everyday basis (and beyond).

 So, Before you get into a relationship, make sure that you have these things in place.

1. Know what you want from a partner.

2. Try to be realistic about what you can expect from a relationship.

3. Understand your strengths and weaknesses as a partner or potential parent.

4. Know what kind of relationship you want.

5. Know how you will communicate with your partner or potential parent (and what language he or she speaks).

6. Know how much time and energy you are willing to commit to this relationship.

7. Be honest with yourself and with others about what you want and don’t want in a relationship or parenting experience.

8. Learn how to identify unhealthy relationships and situations that might lead to unhealthy relationships or situations—then avoid them.

9. Don’t ever allow anyone else to tell you who is right for you—you know better than anyone else what works for you.

Things to know about relationships

It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from, or what your circumstances are. Relationships are complicated and difficult. But they can also be one of the most rewarding experiences in life.

Here are a few things to know about relationships:

Relationships take work and time

In order for any relationship to grow and thrive over time, it requires both parties’ time and works.

This is something many people forget when they get into a romantic relationship. If you want your love life to last, then you need to put effort into it every day.

You have to make sacrifices for your partner and do things that make them happy.

You also have to be willing to compromise when necessary — even if it means sacrificing a little bit of yourself.

Relationships aren’t always easy

Many people believe that love should be easy and effortless.

However, relationships aren’t always easy or effortless because love doesn’t always come easily for everyone. Some people have trouble expressing their feelings or dealing with conflict in healthy ways.

Other people may have issues with trust or commitment that prevent them from fully committing themselves to another person.

It’s important to understand that not every relationship is going to be perfect; there will be ups and downs along the way.

Learn how to express yourself in a way that doesn’t hurt other people

People have different needs and wants. Learn how to take turns in conversations and listen carefully to each other’s points of view.

If you don’t understand something, ask for clarification instead of making assumptions or jumping to conclusions about what someone else means or intends by their words or actions.

Learn how to compromise with others

It’s important to know that both parties feel satisfied with their decision-making process and outcomes.

It’s not always possible for everyone involved in decision-making (such as family members) to get exactly what they want.

Sometimes it takes compromise on everyone’s part to reach an agreement that everyone can live with while still maintaining respect for one another’s opinions and views.

Relationships are tricky

They can be a source of joy and happiness, but they can also be a source of heartache. Relationships require a lot of work and commitment.

You have to be willing to put in the time and effort if you want them to last.

Relationships aren’t always easy, but they’re worth it

The good times are so much better when you have someone special by your side through the bad times too.

If you want to have a successful relationship, it’s important that you don’t get discouraged when things don’t go as planned or when things get tough.

If you’re having trouble with your relationship, don’t give up. Try these helpful tips for improving your relationship:

Keep the lines of communication open between yourself and your partner

It’s important that you can talk about anything with each other without fear of judgment or repercussion from one another.

This will allow both parties involved in the relationship to feel comfortable expressing their feelings and thoughts without fear of being judged by their partner.

And feel as though they might hurt their partner’s feelings by saying something negative about them or expressing an opinion about something that bothers them about their partner’s behavior or personality traits

Here are some more additional things to know about relationships:

 1) Relationship is a journey, where you learn more about each other, and your partner teaches you so much.

2) Relationships are not always going to be easy. You will have to face a lot of problems, but if you both stick together, then everything will be fine.

3) Don’t take each other for granted. If your partner does something that makes you happy, tell him/her that he/she made you happy!

4) Always respect each other’s opinion and don’t argue on petty issues like who washes the dishes or cleans the room!

5) Never compare one person with another; everyone has their own flaws and strengths.

Things to know about someone before getting into a relationship


 There are a lot of things that can make or break a relationship.

While the biggest factors are usually the personality and chemistry between two people, there are a few other things you should know before getting into a relationship with someone.

You may not know this but the right person for you might be right in front of you but if you don’t take the time to know about them, then it won’t work out between the two of you.

Here are some things to know about someone before getting into a relationship

Their values and morals

What do they believe in? How do they feel about family, religion, politics, and money? Are they comfortable talking about these things?

These questions are very important because they show who they really are as people. The answers will tell if they are compatible with your own beliefs or not.

Their past relationships

You need to ask them about their past relationships so that you can understand what went wrong and why they broke up with their exes?

Sometimes it’s better not to know this information because it can be upsetting or heartbreaking for both of you if it was a messy breakup or cheating on their part.

If your partner is already in a relationship, you need to ask yourself whether you are willing to share your partner with the other person.

If you can’t handle it, then break up with him/her before getting into a relationship.

Are they emotionally ready for commitment?

You may think that they are ready but they might not be.

Make sure they are emotionally ready for commitment as well as physically ready for s#x before getting involved with someone else.

What are their goals in life?

Find out what their goals in life are and whether they match yours or not.

If they don’t share the same interests as you do, then this will create problems later on in the relationship and could even lead to its end if one person wants to do something that the other person doesn’t want to do at all, such as get married or have children.

These are some more additional things to know about someone before getting into a relationship:

What are the things that you need to know about someone before getting into a relationship?

1. What is their attitude towards the family?

2. Do they have any addictions?

3. How are they in a relationship with others?

4. What is their financial status like? 

5. Do they have any hidden diseases or problems that you should know about beforehand?

6. How do they treat their previous partners and friends?

7. Are they responsible?

8. Are they honest?

9. Do they have respect for others?

10. What is their family like?

11. Do they want kids?

12. Can you trust them?

13. What do they bring to the table?

14. Are they honest with themselves and others?

15. What are their financial issues?

Things to know about yourself before getting into a relationship

Love is a beautiful thing. But sometimes, we don’t know how to love ourselves first.

This can lead us to enter into relationships with people who are not good for us. If you are planning on dating someone, here are some things to know about yourself before getting into a relationship:

 It is important to get to know yourself before you get into a relationship. This is because it will help you avoid ending up with someone who is not good for you.

One of the things that you should do is to find out whether or not you are ready for a relationship.

It is important to note that there are some people who are not ready for a relationship. If you are one of them, then it would be better if you did not get into one right away.

It is also important to know what kind of person you want in your life.

This will help you identify the type of person whom you can easily fall in love with and also give him or her a chance to know you better before thinking about getting into a relationship with him or her.

Here is a list of things to know about yourself before getting into a relationship:

How do you feel about your body?

Do you love it or hate it? Do you think that it’s ugly or beautiful?

It is important to be comfortable in your own skin before entering any kind of relationship.

If you hate the way that you look then chances are that the person who will be interested in you will have similar feelings about themselves as well.

Are you willing to compromise?

Can you learn to accept someone else’s flaws and still love them despite those things?

Can you give up some of your ideals for someone else without feeling like they are taking over your life?

Are there certain things that are non-negotiable for you or would you give up anything for love?

What are your goals?

What are some goals that you have set for yourself that are not related to family or friends or career, but just for yourself? How will achieving these goals affect your future relationships with other people, if at all?

Who is in control of your life right now?

Think about this question carefully because it will answer any other questions about personal growth and self-esteem issues that lie below the surface for many people who feel powerless over their own lives, especially when it comes to making choices about marriage and family matters.

If you want to be in a successful relationship, then you need to know yourself first. The following are some things to know about yourself before getting into a relationship:

  • What are your values?
  • What is your relationship style?
  • How do you communicate?
  • How do you handle conflict?
  • Do you have any fears and if so what are they?
  • How do you deal with change?
  • What are your values? What do you value most in a relationship? What do you value less? How can you compromise on these values without compromising your happiness?
  • What are your expectations of your partner? Are they realistic? How can they be achieved?


Whatever you decide to do, there are many things to talk about before getting into a relationship.

However, remember that there are no right or wrong answers when it comes to topics like these.

Romantic relationships run the gamut in terms of what they entail – that’s what makes them so interesting and exciting, after all.

So don’t be afraid to ask your partner about it – as long as you’re open and honest about how you’re feeling and what you want, then your relationship is sure to be stronger for it. Good luck!


  • Naveen B

    Experienced Psychology and philosophy Writer, self-help and relationship Coach and thought influencer. He has 7 years of experience in Personal development industry. His expertise as a self-help and relationship Coach has been highlighted through his articles in medium and substack to name a few. To be updated with his latest work, connect with him by following his social media accounts.

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Experienced Psychology and philosophy Writer, self-help and relationship Coach and thought influencer. He has 7 years of experience in Personal development industry. His expertise as a self-help and relationship Coach has been highlighted through his articles in medium and substack to name a few. To be updated with his latest work, connect with him by following his social media accounts.

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