100 Good Relationship Questions

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By: Naveen B

If you’re in a relationship and you’re not sure about what the other person is thinking or feeling, then it’s very important to ask some good relationship questions.

Good relationship questions can help you and your partner learn more about each other and strengthen your bond.

These questions are meant to get to know each other better, so don’t be afraid to ask things that may be uncomfortable or awkward at first.

What are good relationship questions?

Good relationship questions are a way to get your partner to open up and tell you more about themselves. They will also allow you to see how they think and feel about different things.

The best thing about asking these types of questions is that they can help you to understand your partner better and make them feel comfortable talking with you.

Here are some good relationship questions examples:

What was your childhood like?

What was it like growing up as part of a large family?

What do you like best about being married/dating someone who has kids from previous relationships?

Also read: 21 Questions for a new relationship, From Deep to S#xy

Good relationship questions


Here is a list of good questions to ask in a relationship

1. What are each others’ expectations from this relationship?

There is no point in having unrealistic expectations from your partner or from yourself.

If you know what you want and expect from your partner, then there will be no room for disappointment later on in the relationship when things don’t go as planned or as expected.

2. How comfortable are you with managing money and personal finances?

When it comes to money, there are a lot of questions to ask yourself. You need to know what your financial goals and priorities are as a couple so that you can make informed decisions about how you will handle your money together.

You also need to understand what each person’s individual financial situation is.

For example, if you have student loans and credit card debt, that is going to affect how much money you can contribute toward things like a home down payment or retirement.

3. What are our goals in life?

You should both have similar goals in life and be on the same page as far as what’s important to you both at this point in your lives (and what isn’t).

If you want kids and he doesn’t, or if she wants to travel the world but he wants to stay home and watch TV — those things will eventually cause friction in your relationship no matter how much love there is between you two now.

4. Where are we in our relationship when it comes to communication?

You need to be able to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about everything in your relationship — good or bad — for there to be trust between you two.

This includes things like finances, arguments, s#x life etc. If one person doesn’t want to talk about something then maybe they shouldn’t be with that person anymore. Communication is key.

5. How often do you argue?

Arguing is a natural part of relationships, but if it happens too often, it can put unnecessary strain on your bond.

Try to resolve conflicts as soon as possible — this will help avoid them in the future.

Also read: 85 Questions to ask before getting into a relationship

6. Do you have similar interests?

It’s important that both partners share common interests and values because this will help build a strong foundation for your relationship.

If one or both partners don’t share the same interests or values, it might be difficult to maintain a healthy relationship over time.

7. What does he want from me? and What do I want from him when it comes to physical needs in bed? Have we ever talked it out openly?

Knowing what your expectations are for a relationship especially when it comes to your physical needs can help you figure out how emotionally and physically attached to your partner.

And when it comes to other relationship needs and plans.

For example, if you’re looking for someone who can balance work life and personal life well, but your partner isn’t willing to compromise on their career goals, then this might not be the right fit for either person involved in the relationship.

8. What do you think is the hardest part about dating me?

9. How do you feel about our relationship? Are there any changes that you want to see in it?

10. What is your favorite thing about me? My least favorite thing?

11. What is one of my quirks that you love most? One of my quirks that drives you crazy?

12. What is something that I do that makes you feel loved and appreciated? How could I do more of those things for you?

Also read: 75+ Early relationship questions to ask your partner

Good relationship questions to ask

1. Do you believe in soul mates or do people just get lucky sometimes?

2. How long does it take to you to understand a person completely?

3. Do you have any fears? If yes, what are they and how can I help you overcome them (if possible)?

4. If something happened to me right now, what would be the first thing on your mind?

5. Can we talk about our past relationships, present relationships and future relationships together openly?

6. Do you have any secret desires that you’ve never told anyone about? If so, what are they?

7. What do you like most about yourself? What do you like least about yourself? How would you change the least favorite thing if you could? Is there anything else that might surprise me about what’s good or bad about your personality traits?

8. What is your favorite book/movie/song/food/music genre/activity that we haven’t done yet together?

9. What have been some of the best moments of your life so far and why?

10. What’s your dream job? Where would you like to live in the future? How would you describe the perfect weekend for us together?

11. What was the last concert/show or sporting event that you attended and what did you think about it? Is there anything else we should go see together?

12. If I could tell your friends one thing about me what would it be and why?

Also read: 40 New relationship questions to ask yourself and also for him or her (boyfriend, girlfriend, or partner)

Good questions to ask in a new relationship

Here are some good relationship questions in a relationship

1. What is your partner doing that makes you happy?

2. Is there anything you can do to make him/her happier?

3. Are either of you having problems at work or school?

4. If so, try talking about them together as much as possible so that they don’t affect your bond at home negatively.

5. Do I feel comfortable around them?

6. Do they make me feel good about myself?

7. Do they make me laugh? (Or do they at least make me smile?)

8. Do they support my goals and dreams?

9. Do we have similar views on life? (Family values, traditions, religion, etc.)

10. Can I trust them with anything? (You should be able to trust them with your life!)

11. Are they supportive of my career goals and ambitions?

Also read: 100 Questions to ask yourself about your relationship (Whether it’s healthy or toxic; if you should stay or it’s over)

Good questions to ask your boyfriend about your relationship

Here is a list of good relationship questions to ask your boyfriend

1. Is there anything about me that makes you uncomfortable or curious about my past experiences – good or bad – that I should know about before we move forward in this relationship together?

2. What do you feel are our biggest challenges as a couple (and how will we overcome them)? 

3. Do you have any advice on how we can make things better?

4. Tell me something about yourself that no one else knows but me.

5. What’s the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for you?

6. Would you rather have dinner with your friends at home or go out for dinner and drinks with them? Why?

7. What is your favorite type of food? When was the last time you ate it and where did you eat it?

8. What is your favorite type of music, band/artist, and song that makes you feel good when you hear it? If there was one song that described our relationship so far, what would it be?

9. Why do we need each other in our lives right now? How will our lives change because of this relationship? How will our lives stay the same because of this relationship?

10. Do you like movies? Who’s your favorite actor/actress? What kind of movies do you like watching at home and what kind of movie would be best suited for a first date?

11. What kind of music do you listen to? Can we go out dancing together sometime soon? Do you like live music shows and concerts?

12. What’s your favorite food? When is your birthday so I can plan something special for us on that day?

13. What is the most beautiful place in the world that I should visit with you once in my lifetime? Where would we go on our honeymoon if we ever got married and had enough money to spend on traveling around the world?

14. Do you like traveling as much as I do and if so, where would be your dream destination? Would it be possible to travel together one day? If not, why not

Also read: 100 Serious relationship questions to ask yourself and your partner (For him or her)

Good relationship questions to ask a guy


1. What are your dreams and aspirations for the future?

2. If you had $100 million what would you do with it (give some examples)?

3. What is your favorite food, movie, and music genre, and why?

4. Tell me something embarrassing that happened to you in high school; was it really all that bad or was it blown out of proportion by others around you at the time?

5. Tell me something embarrassing that happened to one of your friends recently; was it really all that bad or was it blown out of proportion by others around them at the time?

6. What’s one thing about yourself that’s unique (for example: I’m a vegetarian who loves ___________)? What made this happen

7. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

8. If we were going to meet 10 years from now and I asked you if we were soul mates, would you say yes? Why or why not?

9. What is the most romantic thing that someone has ever done for you (and vice versa)?

10. What is the most loving thing that someone has ever done for you (and vice versa)?

11. What are your favorite hobbies and interests? (and why do they make you happy?)

12. What’s the most embarrassing song on your iPod/smartphone/MP3 player? And why do you love it so much?

13. What’s been your biggest accomplishment so far in life and what did it take to achieve it? How did it feel when ______________(insert big accomplishment here) happened?

Also read: 200+ Deep relationship questions to ask yourself and others (Persuasive & thoughtful)

Good relationship questions to ask your girlfriend


1. What do you think about love at first sight? Is it possible or does it exist only in movies and books?

2. If there was one thing about our relationship, that could be changed what would that be and how would it make things better for us both as a couple/individuals? (This is a big one so take your time)

3. How do you feel when I___________(fill in blank)? (Think about how this question will make them feel before asking it)

4. What’s the most important lesson that has been learned through past relationships, good or bad, that helped shape who you are today?

5. If I were sick, what would be one thing I could do to make myself feel better?

6. What is the most recent book or movie that made an impact on your life? Why?

7. Which one do you prefer: talking on the phone or texting each other every day?

8. What was the most horrible thing your ex-partner did that made you realize that there are no more reasons for staying together?

9. What kind of things do you like doing together as a couple (or individually)?

10. Do you think it’s possible for someone to love another person so much that they would die for them without even thinking about themselves first (or vice versa)?

Good relationship questions to ask your partner

Good questions to ask your partner in a relationship

1. What was your most embarrassing moment?

2. What is your biggest fear, and how do you overcome it?

3. What do you think about the way we communicate in this group chat?

4. If you could trade lives with anyone in the world for a day, who would it be and why?

5. If you were given $100 million to spend on yourself, what would you do?

6. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? Why?

7. What are your top three goals for the next year?

8. “What did you learn today? (and why?)”

9. “What’s something that makes you happy? (and why?)”

10. “How often do you work out?”

11. “How do you unwind after a long day at work?”

12. “If money wasn’t an issue, what would be on your bucket list?”

13. “What is one thing that makes you unique as a person?”

14. “Who are some of your heroes and why are they heroes to you?”

15. “If money wasn’t an issue, where would you go on vacation and why?”

16. “Do you have any bad habits or quirks?”

17. “What makes you feel proud about yourself? (and why?)” 

18. “Have there been any major changes in your life recently (good or bad)?”

19. “Anything else I should know about you before we hang out again next week

People Also read: 100 Questions to ask when starting a relationship

Good relationship building questions

 1. Are you happy? If not, why not?

2. Do you feel loved and cared for?

3. Are you getting what you need from the relationship?

4. Do you feel appreciated by your partner?

5. Is your partner treating you with respect?

6. Are they listening to what you have to say without interrupting or judging?

7. Do they take an interest in your life and care about what makes you happy or sad?

8. Does their behavior towards others make you feel uncomfortable or jealous?

9. Do they show up when there is a problem in the relationship and work together to solve it rather than just complaining about it to everyone else but never doing anything about it themselves?

10. Do I feel good about myself when I’m with my partner?

11. Are we able to communicate easily?

12. Do we have common interests and goals?

13. Are we having enough s#x? How often do we do it and how much do we enjoy it? Is this enough for me? Is this enough for him/her? 

14. Have there been any changes that might affect my s#xual desire/interest?

15. Am I comfortable with my partner’s friends and family?

16. Is there room for growth in our relationship?

17. Do I trust my partner?

18. Can we compromise when needed?

19. Do we share similar values (i.e., religion, politics, finances)?


  • Naveen B

    Experienced Psychology and philosophy Writer, self-help and relationship Coach and thought influencer. He has 7 years of experience in Personal development industry. His expertise as a self-help and relationship Coach has been highlighted through his articles in medium and substack to name a few. To be updated with his latest work, connect with him by following his social media accounts.

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Experienced Psychology and philosophy Writer, self-help and relationship Coach and thought influencer. He has 7 years of experience in Personal development industry. His expertise as a self-help and relationship Coach has been highlighted through his articles in medium and substack to name a few. To be updated with his latest work, connect with him by following his social media accounts.

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